Ever have this problem?
You're standing at the counter of your favorite c-store (or any kind of small retail outlet for that matter) pulling out your wallet (or purse) to pay for your schtuff, when someone at the next register says, "Hi G.B.!" You look up, give them a puzzled look and either ignore them or acknowledge them with the kind of response that speaks volumes about the fact that you have no clue on who they are.
Or, say you're at work and a colleague that you barely know calls you by your first name and asks "how's things?" You can't simply give them the brush off, because quite frankly you have no freakin' idea on who it is that's talking to you, but you know damn well if you have a snappy comeback it will come back to bite you in the ass times ten. So you give them a rather neutral answer and hope like hell they leave you alone.
I have this problem all the time at my job, both at the main office and at the facility that I visit two to three times a month: people who know me and I have not a clue (much like our El Presidente) on who I'm talking to.
I'm very horrible at matching names to faces, faces to voices or even faces to e-mails. And if you factor in that I've been working in the same building for eight long years, then you can pretty much figure out that my social skills are basically scrapping the bottom of the barrel. Which if you think about it, is sad for a person with my memory skills.
I can't tell you how many times I've been put on the spot because of my inability to put two and two together at work. Or rather, my inability to interact with anyone other than my immediate co-workers on my side of the floor, a few co-workers on the first floor and a few members of security. At my other place it's just as bad. Out of the 350+ people I do payroll for at the facility, not counting the HR staff, I recognize just a shade under 24 people, or about one-half of one percent, and even then it took me about year to get comfortable with those people (all supervisors I might add). It's a little worse for the two regional offices I handle: out of 200+, I recognize two.
The real world is even worse.
I've had numerous people come up to me to say "hi" and I have no idea who there are (some recognize me from the private sector jobs I'd worked at and others remember me from high school). I'll politely ask who they might be, and they'll either tell me or go into that stupid game of "you have to guess who I am", and if I don't guess, they either get upset and won't tell me or just won't tell me.
So my friends, do you suffer from what I like call Brain Cramps from time to time? How do you handle it? Fake it the best way you know how? Or simply say to the individual muscling in on your turf, "I'm sorry, but do I know you?"
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